If you use the speed sensor from your USDM tranny in your JDM tranny your HUD should display the correct speed in MPH. Same is true for analog clusters.
As for the VLSD, yes the s14 VLSD can be installed in the S13.
You could swap just the internals but you will need the proper output shafts or you could swap in the whole pumpkin (diff carrier) you will need the rear cover from you stock diff and you might need the S14 axles as well. Look at
this site for more specific info on the VLSD.