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Originally Posted by DRavenS13
Be clear about your expectations when getting into a relationship.
The b/f made it pretty clear to me that when he's married, he wants his wife to stay home.
I'm down with that, not because I feel it is "my place," but because the way I think, if he's willing to work on his own, and have me stay at home, then it's my equal contribution to take care of him and the house.
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This is about where my viewpoints lie, only I'm not necessarily of the mind that the woman HAS to stay home and the guy HAS to work.
If both parents need to work, then obviously no one's going to be doing all this homemaking shit. Get a maid, or live with the mess/chaos, whatever. It is what it is.
If one person works and the other one doesn't, regardless of which gender is dong which, then the person staying home needs to assume part of the responsibility of making the worker's life a little easier when they ARE at home. It's just common sense, they have the time and thus they need to step up a little. I really have no issues with situations where the chick may work and the guy stays home, it would just make sense in that scenario that the guy is going to cook dinner because he's home and able to do it.
Ultimately though, I'm of the mind that everyone needs to be able to take care of themselves. EVERY person needs, if required, to be able to both hold down a job as well as do domestic shit. Every person needs to know how to cook and clean for themselves, show up on time, not get fired, pay their bills, et cetera. Dependency is okay sometimes, but you need to have the CAPABILITY to be independent in order for me to respect you.
As soon as I am able (i.e. out of MBA), I'm going to have my wife stay home. This isn't because I have any serious need to relegate her to homemaking, but she wants to do it and she's always unhappy with her jobs, so why not?
Too bad I can outcook her any day of the week, lol.