[scandalcat1]

tread lightly and think about what you are going to do before you do it.
Before you try to ruin him, make sure that he has done everything in his and your power to mediate the issue.
if it is found to be the fault of an uncontrollable condition such as delivery or maybe he is having personal probs, and he can prove it (assuming that you have unwittingly made your comments about him in attempts to ruin him), you could be liable for lible/slander which can be disastrous.

i am not intentionally trying to be the devils advocate, just saving you some heartache assuming that both of you know who each other (or will) is.