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Originally Posted by trigjones
why wait till I'm 30? I can't see anything changing mentally between now and then...
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youd be surprised how things just flip like switches in our heads (e.g. think immature adolescent mentality entering adulthood, etc.)
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Originally Posted by trigjones
I freaking love my nephew, and have an awesome time hanging out with him (he's 4 now), and its cool carrying him around on my shoulder, going to the park, but by the 2nd day, I'm hounding my sister to take him back. If I had to pick between going to a cool new brewery with my girl on the weekend, or staying in with your kid, I'm always gonna pick the one that leaves me hungover the next morning...
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i understand that mentalities towards children are purely preference and definitely respect that in your situation, up until this post...no disrespect in anyway, but in my opinion from this post, it just sounds like you have some growing up to do and may need to be more receptive to greater things in life...
i do understand where you are coming from though...maybe on some level you arent adverse to having kids, but just overly paranoid (almost over compulsive) about having them unexpectedly/irresponsibly...so thats why you resent the idea so much?
all your posts have the context of you having a kid right now and "robbing" you of your experiences...hell, i dont want a kid now either, but later on in life (maybe in 6+ years), its not even a question that i will...so i dont understand the "now or never" urgency...why cant you responsibly have a kid 5-10 years from now...goals, priorities, and attitudes towards things like this are ever changing...i wouldnt be too hasty...
especially since you mentioned that your dream girl would be a woman that also does not want a kid...talking out of my ass (no disrespect if i offend anyone or anyones significant other), but id hate to meet the girl along with her baggage or "issues" that actually doesnt want a kid...not being sexist, its innate with women on a biological level and if they dont have the inclination or affinity towards motherhood/nurturing, id hate to see what other wires have been crossed...again, no disrespect, i know plenty of women and family members that fall under this category, but they either seem very unfulfilled with life or just not all there...