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Originally Posted by sw20>>s14
youd be surprised how things just flip like switches in our heads (e.g. think immature adolescent mentality entering adulthood, etc.)
i understand that mentalities towards children are purely preference and definitely respect that in your situation, up until this post...no disrespect in anyway, but in my opinion from this post, it just sounds like you have some growing up to do and may need to be more receptive to greater things in life...
i do understand where you are coming from though...maybe on some level you arent adverse to having kids, but just overly paranoid (almost over compulsive) about having them unexpectedly/irresponsibly...so thats why you resent the idea so much?
all your posts have the context of you having a kid right now and "robbing" you of your experiences...hell, i dont want a kid now either, but later on in life (maybe in 6+ years), its not even a question that i will...so i dont understand the "now or never" urgency...why cant you responsibly have a kid 5-10 years from now...goals, priorities, and attitudes towards things like this are ever changing...i wouldnt be too hasty...
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This definitely made me take a step back and reconsider. Ya, I am selfish and irresponsible, but as a kid I had to grow up really quick and do most stuff kids shouldn't have to deal with, such as taking care of my brothers and sisters (buying groceries with my own money) when I was 12 and my mom was battling breast cancer, helping her with morphine injections (for pain, not to get high) when I was 16 and it showed up again, then losing her when I was a senior in high school.
Beyond a long laundry list of other traumatic events, I felt like I got robbed of those care-free years when I was younger, and am highly resistant to the idea of giving those up. 99% of the girls I met wouldn't qualify as long term girlfriends, spouses if out of the question, and as mothers, I wouldn't want to be within a mile of the cluster-F that would be...
The current one however, is that really special chick... and maybe kids are one of those life experiences that you should have, and avoiding it might be robbing yourself of something truly unique.
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Originally Posted by Matej
Blonde people and blue eyed people are the only two races that are dying out, instead of multiplying rapidly like everyone else.
Do your part.
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We both want halfie's if we have kids, one twinkie, one oreo. I don't know how we are going to arrange this...