yikes
who tightend it? Thats ridiculous.
hand snug/firm (not GRIP IT AND RIP IT) and then another 1/4 to 1/2 turn. Thats all, really. Oh, and put a little bit of oil around the seal of the filter (I usually just dab my finger in the old stuff I just drained and run it around the seal.)
Try one of those cup style oil filter removal things. You can stick a ratchet or a long handled bar. Get some good leverage.
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