your first mistake is seeking out advice from an internet message board
you should also view this:
http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html
women have two seperate ladders as the link illustrates. you just might be on that cozy and irritating as hell friends ladder.
wanna know why guys get chicks? confidence. i've had chicks doin things within hours that nobody else could get em to. why? confidence. if you know your game and react accordingly there is truly no limit to what you can achieve. play the game like you can have any one of em you might desire. (telling them that you're subject to holding the chicks you date by high standards doesnt hurt either).
basically you have to make a woman feel like she's special and like you could walk at anytime without giving two farts in the wind about it.
yes, that is how insane they are.
this of course doesn't apply to women who might write you off based entirely on how you look. these chicks are by default stuck up cunts who don't deserve attention anyhow.
THUS, you can have any chick you want but only if you have the balls to take it.