I dont want to leave behind a dead ed thread so heres the update
the isssue is fixed!!!

thanks again for your help
I cant say for sure which fixed the issue so let me go along the last things i did
I gapped the plugs from .28" to .23" ( I plan on upping the gap till i budget some breakup then gapping down from their to get the best gap possable)
I took out the fuel injectors and noticed one had 2x tears on the bottom O-ring,The tears were in a spot the fuel wasnt leaking out but could have been seeping boost past the the lower o ring.
installed a tomei AFPR and bought a good marshal oil filled guage and set the fuel pressure to this.This was important for me because I had 3 different fuel pressure guages and all 3 read different numbers so I invested in a more expensive guage and went off that,also tested the tomei fpr by adding psi to make sure fuel pressure was rising 1:1 ratio
one of these or all of these seemed to fix the issue as it no longer breaks up under boost.
from here I do see another issue and thats Im reading around a 10.8 afr at higher rpm under boost.
would lowering the fuel pressure a few psi maybe help combat this?right now fuel pressure is 36psi with vaccum and 43psi without vacuum.I really dont want to go safc if i dont have too.Thoughts on lowering the FP to lean out the mix a tad,would lowering the FP even be enough to get me in the 11 afr?