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1ZlowZ · 04-13-2008, 12:02 AM

OK I've been arguing with friends of mines they say I have low self-esteem. Tell me what you guys think. I have the DGAF attitude. I'm not the best looking fella there is but, yet I'm sweet with the ladies. Most girls tell me I look hot, yet I don't like that I prefer handsome and such. Well I look at myself different. I think that I don't look as good as they say but, still I couldn't careless of how I look.

How does that put me in the self-esteem chart? I've already searched google for this crap but no dice.

Help...

http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/b...m/selfest.html

Thats where I looked for this.

I'd post a picture but have none ATM.

RiversideS13 · 04-13-2008, 12:13 AM

i think it is depend on how you talk and interactive with other people. one of my friend he is short and fat but he had fling with more girls than cars i ever had. i realized because he is very sociable and been intelligent.

MaD1337M3DRiV3r · 04-13-2008, 12:20 AM

just get a hair cut, spike up your hair, get some nice dressy shirts that sorta fit tighter and hit up some clubs/raves... i told that to one of my friends and now he's a chick magnet... Also helps to get a BMW lol

drift freaq · 04-13-2008, 12:32 AM

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Originally Posted by 1ZlowZ

OK I've been arguing with friends of mines they say I have low self-esteem. Tell me what you guys think. I have the DGAF attitude. I'm not the best looking fella there is but, yet I'm sweet with the ladies. Most girls tell me I look hot, yet I don't like that I prefer handsome and such. Well I look at myself different. I think that I don't look as good as they say but, still I couldn't careless of how I look.

How does that put me in the self-esteem chart? I've already searched google for this crap but no dice.

Help...

http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/b...m/selfest.html

Thats where I looked for this.

I'd post a picture but have none ATM.

First off, if girls tell you, you look hot. Fuck don't get bummed. lol. They give you a compliment and you just beat yourself up over it. Hot is hot. Trust me if a Women says your hot you got nothing to worry about, Hot equals handsome in a womens eyes.
Plus you say you don't look as hot as what they say, but then you say you don't care how you look. Thats bullshit. If you really did not care it would not be a big deal to you.
I think you need to get honest with yourself. Plus you need to start complimenting yourself. I know it sounds wacky but when you do care about yourself you feel better. Plus the more you are happy with yourself the more people are happy with you.

drftkng951 · 04-13-2008, 12:35 AM

so what are you saying your major self asteem problem is.....?
looks?
personality?
etc.

luisgonz · 04-13-2008, 12:52 AM

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Originally Posted by drift freaq

First off, if girls tell you, you look hot. Fuck don't get bummed. lol. They give you a compliment and you just beat yourself up over it. Hot is hot. Trust me if a Women says your hot you got nothing to worry about, Hot equals handsome in a womens eyes.
Plus you say you don't look as hot as what they say, but then you say you don't care how you look. Thats bullshit. If you really did not care it would not be a big deal to you.
I think you need to get honest with yourself. Plus you need to start complimenting yourself. I know it sounds wacky but when you do care about yourself you feel better. Plus the more you are happy with yourself the more people are happy with you.

This is one more time I agree with you, But I do feel like this sounds like a on going problem for you for some time now. I really do think you should seek professional help if it gets alittle more out of hand. Im on the same boat as you. I beat my self up for everything I do. And I had to seek help. I really hope you feel better by tomorrow.

1ZlowZ · 04-13-2008, 01:09 AM

Well I couldn't careless how I look but, something I see in myself doesn't look right. Personality I have no problem with. I have a problem with the way I talk and when I choose to talk. I only really communicate when I know somebody, if I don't know them then I usually just listen.

Quote:

Originally Posted by drftkng951

so what are you saying your major self asteem problem is.....?
looks?
personality?
etc.

EDIT: Sort of weird asking this. Tell me what you guys think.

Tops* · 04-13-2008, 01:11 AM

You just need a new haircut.

[ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M[/ame]

drftkng951 · 04-13-2008, 01:17 AM

yeah kinda gay lookin but......oh well.

shave the lil mustache and change your style.

nothing major.....

blasting_speed · 04-13-2008, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Tops*

You just need a new haircut.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M

The fucked up shit is that douche bags like this do exist. ahahahahah Its funny because they can only get girls if the girls are drunks. ahahahah They look ridiculous.

WERDdabuilder · 04-13-2008, 01:39 AM

might be that unibrow homie.

1ZlowZ · 04-13-2008, 01:48 AM

I don't have a unibrow or a mustache. I'll look for a better picture.

jskateborders · 04-13-2008, 03:15 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 1ZlowZ

Well I couldn't careless how I look but, something I see in myself doesn't look right. Personality I have no problem with. I have a problem with the way I talk and when I choose to talk. I only really communicate when I know somebody, if I don't know them then I usually just listen.

EDIT: Sort of weird asking this. Tell me what you guys think.

Id pee in your butt

HyperTek · 04-13-2008, 03:38 AM

prolly the way you dress?? super baggy?

dont sweat it man ur still a baby u got the rest of ur life

SC_S13 · 04-13-2008, 03:44 AM

charisma. end thread

ps. smile bro, dont always gotta concern yourself with looking hard. just be yourself and obviously if the ladies already say youre hot, then its all good. all i can say is dont put the pussy on the pedestal and base your esteem off others. be yourself and have fun man

HyperTek · 04-13-2008, 03:57 AM

self esteem builder - go to the gym.. forreals
while everyone else is drinking beer and gettin wasted partyin *not good for the body*, your out pumpin iron and workin out, then go out casually every so often =p
you get a lil older in your 20s and realize how stupid some of that shit is.

I shaved my head for a while, it got really good feedback from females, but my homies didnt like it.. lol
Now i keep it just keep it short and clean trim, low maintenance.

hmm one of my friends linked me this forum b4 it might help u with the self esteem
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/

womenbeshoppin · 04-13-2008, 04:05 AM

get your weight up!, EAT BIG, LIFT HEAVY

1ZlowZ · 04-13-2008, 04:06 AM

I don't dress like that anymore... Those pictures were taken well over a year ago. I wear more tighter fitting clothes. Hair pointing forward in a spiky position. I like what you guys said but still haven't quite answered my question. In what I said the first post. Is that low self esteem or alright self esteem?

womenbeshoppin · 04-13-2008, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by 1ZlowZ

I don't dress like that anymore... Those pictures were taken well over a year ago. I wear more tighter fitting clothes. Hair pointing forward in a spiky position. I like what you guys said but still haven't quite answered my question. In what I said the first post. Is that low self esteem or alright self esteem?

i don't know, let me see your wrists

1ZlowZ · 04-13-2008, 04:21 AM

My wrist are clean no cuts or anything except for one trying to take off the heat shield on my 280zx went a bit deep. =/

Dirty Habit · 04-13-2008, 09:11 AM

I don't get serious very often..but..

Your 21 man. Its very rare that people know who they are at 21. When it comes to failure, look at it as a learning opportunity. Don't beat up on yourself, learn, move on. Everything only gets more complicated as you get older. This is the only way your gonna grow.

Ladies love one thing more than any in a man. Chicks can dig the ugliest of dudes if the said dude has confidence.
Confidence is huge. Ladies panties drop if you can show them that without a doubt you are "the fucking man" and can handle any situation that might be bestowed upon you. They want to feel secure.
They want a shot caller.

A lot of women don't know the difference between confidence and downright stupidity.
The broads you attract with a new haircut are trash. Dress cleanly, enjoy intelligent conversation, be yourself and the right ones will come to you.

So get out there, get your game straight...AND IF YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO:

Get your ma to pick ya up some more muscle milk.lol.

womenbeshoppin · 04-13-2008, 09:23 AM

you look like my uncle termite

godzillarb · 04-13-2008, 09:39 AM

Real confidence comes from passing through life's challenges, basically being refined by "fire." I'd suggest getting involved in some sports where you are pushed and challenged, preferably something with a shit load of adrenaline.

Hit the gym, get off your ass. Go make something of yourself.

This last couple of days I have been involved in a moot court competition at my lawschool where you argue any number of issues in front of a panel of judges. Talk about nerve racking. But you know what, I made it. I survived that fire and ended up doing pretty damn good in the competition. Keep in mind, I'm just a grease monkey with no public speaking experience whatsoever.

If you don't know what kind of sport or competition to try, give paintball a shot. Nothing like running around shooting people.

And stop making threads like this or complaining about what a loser you feel like. Nobody really cares that you're crying in the corner, get over it.

Dirty Habit · 04-13-2008, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by godzillarb

Nothing like running around shooting people.

Are you sure this is something you want to tell a kid with low self-esteem?

murda-c · 04-13-2008, 09:49 AM

Dude. i'll fuck you.

no homo tho.

maybe a little.

EDIT: and the broad you're with.

godzillarb · 04-13-2008, 09:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dirty Habit

Are you sure this is something you want to tell a kid with low self-esteem?

HAHA... good point bro.

But hey, better on the paintball field than anywhere else!

SW20Racer · 04-13-2008, 10:04 AM

do you want instant self esteem?! do you want instant charisma?! GET YOUR DICK PIERCED. nothing says "bitch, get over here and buy ME a drink!" like a 00 prince albert bangin against your kneecap.

jackjack · 04-13-2008, 10:18 AM

just be yourself and dont worry about it. as long as you're a good person and treat people with respect everything will fall into place. remember........ there are a lot of shit people out there.

KA24DESOneThree · 04-13-2008, 10:23 AM

Get a better job, then spend all the money on your car.

You'll stop caring about women, and your self-esteem will rely solely on how you view your car skills.

You'll also get in more fights with people on the internet. This is a good thing.

240love^_^ · 04-13-2008, 11:02 AM

Just be yourself.
You're thinking about this way too hard.
As long as you are comfortable with your style and your image than its all good. Don't change yourself because of what people think.

Seriously, as long as you are respectful, understanding, and can hold a decent conversation with a lady then its all good.(Or at least that is what I look for in a guy)

Just enjoy yourself.

04-13-2008, 12:02 AM	#1
1ZlowZ Zilvia Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Apple Valley Age: 31 Posts: 649 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	Self-Esteem HELP! OK I've been arguing with friends of mines they say I have low self-esteem. Tell me what you guys think. I have the DGAF attitude. I'm not the best looking fella there is but, yet I'm sweet with the ladies. Most girls tell me I look hot, yet I don't like that I prefer handsome and such. Well I look at myself different. I think that I don't look as good as they say but, still I couldn't careless of how I look. How does that put me in the self-esteem chart? I've already searched google for this crap but no dice. Help... http://www.utexas.edu/student/cmhc/b...m/selfest.html Thats where I looked for this. I'd post a picture but have none ATM.

04-13-2008, 12:35 AM	#5
drftkng951 Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Riverside,CA Age: 35 Posts: 529 Trader Rating: (6) Feedback Score: 6 reviews	so what are you saying your major self asteem problem is.....? looks? personality? etc. __________________ J.SUN

04-13-2008, 01:11 AM	#8
Tops* Zilvia Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: SF, CA Age: 36 Posts: 966 Trader Rating: (6) Feedback Score: 6 reviews	You just need a new haircut. [ame]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JMOh-cul6M[/ame] __________________ MADE IN JAPAN

04-13-2008, 01:17 AM	#9
drftkng951 Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Riverside,CA Age: 35 Posts: 529 Trader Rating: (6) Feedback Score: 6 reviews	yeah kinda gay lookin but......oh well. shave the lil mustache and change your style. nothing major..... __________________ J.SUN

04-13-2008, 03:38 AM	#14
HyperTek Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Cali Posts: 13,224 Trader Rating: (3) Feedback Score: 3 reviews	prolly the way you dress?? super baggy? dont sweat it man ur still a baby u got the rest of ur life __________________ Keep it Classy

04-13-2008, 12:13 AM	#2
RiversideS13 Zilvia FREAK! Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Diamond Bar, CA Age: 42 Posts: 1,545 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	i think it is depend on how you talk and interactive with other people. one of my friend he is short and fat but he had fling with more girls than cars i ever had. i realized because he is very sociable and been intelligent.

04-13-2008, 12:20 AM	#3
MaD1337M3DRiV3r Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Los Angeles (818) Posts: 304 Trader Rating: (1) Rides Gallery: MaD1337M3DRiV3r Feedback Score: 1 reviews	just get a hair cut, spike up your hair, get some nice dressy shirts that sorta fit tighter and hit up some clubs/raves... i told that to one of my friends and now he's a chick magnet... Also helps to get a BMW lol

04-13-2008, 01:39 AM	#11
WERDdabuilder Post Whore! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: cali Posts: 3,727 Trader Rating: (17) Feedback Score: 17 reviews	might be that unibrow homie.

04-13-2008, 01:48 AM	#12
1ZlowZ Zilvia Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Apple Valley Age: 31 Posts: 649 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	I don't have a unibrow or a mustache. I'll look for a better picture.

04-13-2008, 03:44 AM	#15
SC_S13 Zilvia Addict Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Santa Cruz Posts: 936 Trader Rating: (15) Feedback Score: 15 reviews	charisma. end thread ps. smile bro, dont always gotta concern yourself with looking hard. just be yourself and obviously if the ladies already say youre hot, then its all good. all i can say is dont put the pussy on the pedestal and base your esteem off others. be yourself and have fun man __________________

04-13-2008, 03:57 AM	#16
HyperTek Post Whore! Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Cali Posts: 13,224 Trader Rating: (3) Feedback Score: 3 reviews	self esteem builder - go to the gym.. forreals while everyone else is drinking beer and gettin wasted partyin not good for the body, your out pumpin iron and workin out, then go out casually every so often =p you get a lil older in your 20s and realize how stupid some of that shit is. I shaved my head for a while, it got really good feedback from females, but my homies didnt like it.. lol Now i keep it just keep it short and clean trim, low maintenance. hmm one of my friends linked me this forum b4 it might help u with the self esteem http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/ __________________ Keep it Classy

04-13-2008, 04:05 AM	#17
womenbeshoppin Zilvia Addict Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Orange county Age: 37 Posts: 614 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	get your weight up!, EAT BIG, LIFT HEAVY

04-13-2008, 04:06 AM	#18
1ZlowZ Zilvia Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Apple Valley Age: 31 Posts: 649 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	I don't dress like that anymore... Those pictures were taken well over a year ago. I wear more tighter fitting clothes. Hair pointing forward in a spiky position. I like what you guys said but still haven't quite answered my question. In what I said the first post. Is that low self esteem or alright self esteem?

04-13-2008, 04:21 AM	#20
1ZlowZ Zilvia Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Apple Valley Age: 31 Posts: 649 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	My wrist are clean no cuts or anything except for one trying to take off the heat shield on my 280zx went a bit deep. =/

04-13-2008, 09:11 AM	#21
Dirty Habit Nissanaholic! Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ann Arbor, MI Posts: 2,069 Trader Rating: (3) Rides Gallery: Dirty Habit Feedback Score: 3 reviews	I don't get serious very often..but.. Your 21 man. Its very rare that people know who they are at 21. When it comes to failure, look at it as a learning opportunity. Don't beat up on yourself, learn, move on. Everything only gets more complicated as you get older. This is the only way your gonna grow. Ladies love one thing more than any in a man. Chicks can dig the ugliest of dudes if the said dude has confidence. Confidence is huge. Ladies panties drop if you can show them that without a doubt you are "the fucking man" and can handle any situation that might be bestowed upon you. They want to feel secure. They want a shot caller. A lot of women don't know the difference between confidence and downright stupidity. The broads you attract with a new haircut are trash. Dress cleanly, enjoy intelligent conversation, be yourself and the right ones will come to you. So get out there, get your game straight...AND IF YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO: Get your ma to pick ya up some more muscle milk.lol. Last edited by Dirty Habit; 04-13-2008 at 07:01 PM.. Reason: Btw: Owning a Z puts you on shot calling status automatically.

04-13-2008, 09:23 AM	#22
womenbeshoppin Zilvia Addict Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Orange county Age: 37 Posts: 614 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	you look like my uncle termite

04-13-2008, 09:39 AM	#23
godzillarb Zilvia Junkie Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Destin, FL Age: 38 Posts: 487 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	Real confidence comes from passing through life's challenges, basically being refined by "fire." I'd suggest getting involved in some sports where you are pushed and challenged, preferably something with a shit load of adrenaline. Hit the gym, get off your ass. Go make something of yourself. This last couple of days I have been involved in a moot court competition at my lawschool where you argue any number of issues in front of a panel of judges. Talk about nerve racking. But you know what, I made it. I survived that fire and ended up doing pretty damn good in the competition. Keep in mind, I'm just a grease monkey with no public speaking experience whatsoever. If you don't know what kind of sport or competition to try, give paintball a shot. Nothing like running around shooting people. And stop making threads like this or complaining about what a loser you feel like. Nobody really cares that you're crying in the corner, get over it. __________________ INTENSE POWER RIPPED ME OFF

04-13-2008, 09:49 AM	#25
murda-c Post Whore! Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Montgomery County, MD Age: 36 Posts: 3,197 Trader Rating: (1) Feedback Score: 1 reviews	Dude. i'll fuck you. no homo tho. maybe a little. EDIT: and the broad you're with. __________________

04-13-2008, 10:04 AM	#27
SW20Racer Nissanaholic! Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Beaumont Age: 39 Posts: 1,633 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	you want 1 miyon dorra?! do you want instant self esteem?! do you want instant charisma?! GET YOUR DICK PIERCED. nothing says "bitch, get over here and buy ME a drink!" like a 00 prince albert bangin against your kneecap.

04-13-2008, 10:18 AM	#28
jackjack Post Whore! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Chi Posts: 2,899 Trader Rating: (2) Feedback Score: 2 reviews	just be yourself and dont worry about it. as long as you're a good person and treat people with respect everything will fall into place. remember........ there are a lot of shit people out there.

04-13-2008, 10:23 AM	#29
KA24DESOneThree Post Whore! Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: SD County SoCal Age: 38 Posts: 2,555 Trader Rating: (2) Rides Gallery: KA24DESOneThree Feedback Score: 2 reviews	Get a better job, then spend all the money on your car. You'll stop caring about women, and your self-esteem will rely solely on how you view your car skills. You'll also get in more fights with people on the internet. This is a good thing.

04-13-2008, 11:02 AM	#30
240love^_^ Zilvia Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: 805~626~562~714~818~310~831 Posts: 621 Trader Rating: (0) Feedback Score: 0 reviews	Just be yourself. You're thinking about this way too hard. As long as you are comfortable with your style and your image than its all good. Don't change yourself because of what people think. Seriously, as long as you are respectful, understanding, and can hold a decent conversation with a lady then its all good.(Or at least that is what I look for in a guy) Just enjoy yourself.