relationship advice plez help super confused

[Genovese.Jr]

i need some advice on this wtf should i do

so hers the situation the first girl

Laura i dated for almost a year i went to a party while she was
out of town i was wasted and her bestfriend Elizabeth was at the party and called her and told her how i was acting so Laura told her to give me a ride home the next morning i wake up naked wearing a rubber and shes laying on my chest so i got out of there as fast as i could i was hanging out with Laura at the mall that day and about that time Liz called and told her what happened the night before so i was like O fuck she flipped out and started hitting me. so i tried to apologize and explained to her i didn't remember any thing that night i was drunk so we Broke up and stopped talking i really cared about this girl.But i had to move on

A few weeks later i went out to eat with Elizabeth she apologized and i guess we hit it off from there it was great everything was going fine then oneday i was at work and Liz called me and was like Laura sent you a email saying that she forgives you and wants you to bang her stupid and check out her new piericing so then right off the bat she had assumed i was cheating on her i wasn't but we all know how girls are so then i explained they eventually got into a fist fight at a club while i was working one night all my friends called me and told me about it and i was like wtf so from then on everything was fine a few months later Liz is pregnant so i am going to be a dad everything was okay i was very excited i thought i was doing just fine we bought a brand new 5,000 square foot house i gave her my Benz i was working hard to provide for us about two months ago we got into this big fight she was mad because i was going out on Friday and Saturday nights with my friends and we were partying it up so preddy much she called me an asshole and said i wrecked her career and she wanted to break up

so i left her the house the car packed my shit and rented a condo so i was single then i had met this girl threw a couple of friends her name is lyla we've been dating for about a month i was really feeling her but then Tuesday she said she was going to another collage out of state to finish up a credit so i just reacted without thinking and was like its over but shes been talking and texting me for last couple of days and said shes really missing me and wants me back and im thinking i might be able to trust her shes classy iv only hit once in about a month in a half since i have known her so shes not a slut and doesn't have a long history of dudes.

but now all of em want to start talking and get back together and him just really confused what should i do. If this belongs in another form let me know

any advice will help im just really bummed and i cant think straight right now so i need advice from someone who is so please keep all dickhead responces to youreself

[Daniel.]

i thinks u shud get wit all three of em at da same tim. cuz u type lyke a playa.

[beanzphour]

get with all three of them and have big ass orgy.

[shayrgob240]

damn got spark notes??

[shiftdrift]

make a poll, because i vote orgy also, i think you should get back with the one that you got pregnant...seeing as how that is your kid and all.

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by shayrgob240

damn got spark notes??

what do you mean bro

[Daniel.]

In all seriousness, (and it's really really hard for me to ever take any of your posts serious) nothing that a bunch of people on the internet tell you to do should be taken serious.

Just think about it. We're just a bunch of text on a computer screen to you. What the hell kind of insight could we possibly be able to provide you? We really don't know you, the girls, or your situation personally.

If you're looking for support or a pat on the back or a hug, you're better off with either this

YouTube - Free Hugs Campaign - Official Page (music by Sick Puppies.net )

or this

Group Hug | Anonymous online confessions

[nu_born]

^^harsh, but the man's got a point. The only thing a thread like this will do is bring about ridicule and flames.

[shayrgob240]

Originally Posted by Genovese.Jr

what do you mean bro

lol it's a lot to read

[HyperTek]

well if liz's baby is actually yours, take care of that, be a man, dont be fucking around. imagine if your dad did that. How many times did you get with liz? if it was just that one time and you had a rubber, how do you know its yours and the girl wasnt messin around?

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by shayrgob240

lol it's a lot to read

thats what i thought lol

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by HyperTek

well if liz's baby is actually yours, take care of that, be a man, dont be fucking around. imagine if your dad did that. How many times did you get with liz? if it was just that one time and you had a rubber, how do you know its yours and the girl wasnt messin around?

iv slept with her 1 time before i went out with her but iv slept with her almost evry day for about 6 monthes thanks youre the only one who has given me somw advice but the only proublem is i dont want her throwing it up in my face all the time how i messed up her career

[HyperTek]

than she should be the one to go with man, its just morally right =)
you have an attachment to this one now that is something the others dont have right now

my homegirl fell in love with a guy who was still married and expecting a child with his wife but says he was working out a devorce blah blah, see how bad that sounds? but women still love that shit because its dangerous and they want to win the guy lol

[Sileighty_85]

Originally Posted by Genovese.Jr

iv slept with her 1 time before i went out with her but iv slept with her almost evry day for about 6 monthes thanks youre the only one who has given me somw advice but the only proublem is i dont want her throwing it up in my face all the time how i messed up her career

It takes two to tango man.

Shes just as much at fault than you are, she chose not to use protection also

[ESmorz]

Suck your own bro.

itS da bEsT

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by HyperTek

than she should be the one to go with man, its just morally right =)
you have an attachment to this one now that is something the others dont have right now


my homegirl fell in love with a guy who was still married and expecting a child with his wife but says he was working out a devorce blah blah, see how bad that sounds? but women still love that shit because its dangerous and they want to win the guy lol

yeah i feel ya

Originally Posted by Sileighty_85

It takes two to tango man.

Shes just as much at fault than you are, she chose not to use protection also

i tried to exsplain it that way but all i got was fuck you and should of pulled out even though a few times she kept me in when i tried to pull out she was on birth control the shot stuff not that dumb ass pill but i guess that shit dosentwork

Originally Posted by ESmorz

Suck your own bro.

itS da bEsT

i strongly disagree but this cheered me up thanks bro

[!Zar!]

Seems like the women you meet are in love with your money.

And if you are a dad/to be and still trying to go out and party on the weekends then you need to get your priorities straight.

Your first priority is what's going on with your kid. You need to involve yourself in his/her upbringing.

Don't fuck up the kids chances at seeing what a happy family is like because you keep thinking like a thirteen year old with fourty bucks in his pocket trying to get his dick wet.

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by !Zar!

Seems like the women you meet are in love with your money.

And if you are a dad/to be and still trying to go out and party on the weekends then you need to get your priorities straight.

Your first priority is what's going on with your kid. You need to involve yourself in his/her upbringing.

Don't fuck up the kids chances at seeing what a happy family is like because you keep thinking like a thirteen year old with fourty bucks in his pocket trying to get his dick wet.

yeah i need to get my shitstraight and women arnt in love with my money they all make good money them selfs

[!Zar!]

Alright. Well you still need to worry about getting on good terms with your kid to be's mom.

And even if stuff doesn't work out, don't keep dipping in the same cookie jar.

Talk to women that don't know her. Not her friends.

[JohnnyDrfiter22]

id have to see some pix of these breezy's cuz you talking a whole bunch of shit. "I got a Benz, a 5000sq ft house, condo.......

IDK but if it were me, id do what i do now and just chill with a few girlies, but never get serious. And if you were me, you dont invite girls over to your crib, you dont chill with any girls friends....

I need to write a book....

[TheWolf]

there once was a story about the degredation of the family, you can either fix it or join the statistics. Since so many people are eager to jump onto the next young hot thing that walks by, here are the statistics.

the statistics are one parent children are
higher rate of hospitalization
suffer more health problems
twice as likely to develop serious psychiatric illnesses and addictions (drug/alcohol) later in life
significantly greater risk of sinking into poverty
significantly lower grades in school
higher incarceration rates

if your having a kid.. and your not married.. then you should really try and work it out.. lets be blunt honest here. Is any piece of pussy worth more than a good family for your kid? If there was a choice between playmate of the month naked and a good life for your kid which would you chose? Selfishly you want the hot night with the playmate but there's nothing selfish about parenting. There's nothing selfish about relationships either. The reason she was mad, was that you were going out parting, she couldn't drink while preggers, she was isolated, alone and scared and felt that you valued your friends more than her. You were spending money on booze instead of saving it for "what ifs". This is compounded if she's a partier herself as she is out of her environment on top of the following. Pregnancy is a difficult time for most women. It's very stressful on the body and on relationships as most women have friends at "work". Also their independence is tied to their income. So they feel trapped because children usually cut that off. They become dependent on their husband to be a provider, to be stable. If she can't trust you to be this, then she will get scared. This is why it usually works better after your married. Making a lifelong commitment bring a lot of trust, stability and communication to the relationship. All of which it sounds like your lacking. Her needs have changed. She doesn't just need money and a house. She needs stability. Someone who shows responsibility, and dependability. Someone who can provide and be a loving role model and example to your child. Any of this sound like what you frequently argued about?

While it's good to party with friends, that stops when you become a parent. Most people have a difficult time transitioning from college 20ish party friends to married, adults with kids friends. There's alot of attrition. The partiers will still party not knowing why you "don't have time for them anymore". They'll quit calling and inviting you out. sounds corney but until you have kids, you have no idea why people say being a single parent is soooo hard. It's VERY important that you try to work it out. You have to approach marriage and parenting with the never give up never surrender vigor. If you don't, you WILL fail. I sense there's alot of pride in your words and the best way to teach humility is to lead by example. If she throws something in your face turn the other cheek so she can do it again. 7 times 70 if you will. It will be difficult at first but keep at it. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither is a lifelong relationship with alot of hurt. Never underestimate the value of arguing naked. You'll find that when you are so frustrated with the other you can't but admire what god has crafted. Also, agree on a word before you discuss everything. Once this word is spoken, you will stop and give the other person 30secs to a minute to cool down. My wife and I use "bananas". If I'm yelling about car payments or why she did this or that and she says bananas. For one, it like makes no sense in the argument, second it lets me know that my words are getting hurtful. No one wants to hurt their love. Doing this keeps arguments about the facts instead of the heated hurtfull words that come with escalations. It will take time to patch things up. Both of you will have done hurtful things to each other since you broke apart. Go make her dinner one night. Don't order in. Make it. Just lay out that you want to fix things. Don't get into specifics. Just let her know that your committed to working it out and let it be. No sex just a date. see where that gets you.

Originally Posted by Genovese.Jr

i tried to exsplain it that way but all i got was fuck you and should of pulled out even though a few times she kept me in when i tried to pull out she was on birth control the shot stuff not that dumb ass pill but i guess that shit dosentwork

Depo is quite effective in this department and has some serious health risks. You're not going to get anywhere saying the kid is "her fault". Why don't you just get your balls snipped? You can't put it on the women to disable their fertility for your personal gratification. You've got to take responsibility work on trust and communication. Best advice I can give is "Do what you say you're gonna do". 100% of the time. You can't just want sex for personal gratification and ignore the procreative side. Thats like cake without calories. The more you consume, the more it looses it's gratification value.

[azndoc]

Here is my advice.

Man up take care of your kid, if it is your kid. Doesn't sound like this Liz girl is a catch.

Just another hoe with daddy problems looking for a man to fulfill her insecurities.

Then take a 6 months off. Don't fuck with no chicks and just hang out with your boys and work on your own shit.

You'd be surprised the amount of shit you get done without female problems cluttering up your life.

[innovation]

Sounds like you're pretty immature. I like that you're were getting your ish together, but man you gotta be real with yourself. You had a baby on the way, a chick who was down with you and you still wanted to party? Thats just asking for trouble man... YOU NEED to take care of your child. If she isnt down, whatever, dont bail on that kid.
I mean don't get me wrong maybe it isn't meant to be, hence you meeting the girl who is going out of state to another college. But in all seriousness, MAN UP.

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by azndoc

Here is my advice.



if your having a kid.. and your not married.. then you should really try and work it out.. lets be blunt honest here. Is any piece of pussy worth more than a good family for your kid?



Depo is quite effective in this department and has some serious health risks. You're not going to get anywhere saying the kid is "her fault". Why don't you just get your balls snipped? You can't put it on the women to disable their fertility for your personal gratification. You've got to take responsibility work on trust and communication. Best advice I can give is "Do what you say you're gonna do". 100% of the time. You can't just want sex for personal gratification and ignore the procreative side. Thats like cake without calories. The more you consume, the more it looses it's gratification value.

no pussey < family

Originally Posted by innovation

Sounds like you're pretty immature. I like that you're were getting your ish together, but man you gotta be real with yourself. You had a baby on the way, a chick who was down with you and you still wanted to party? Thats just asking for trouble man... YOU NEED to take care of your child. If she isnt down, whatever, dont bail on that kid.
I mean don't get me wrong maybe it isn't meant to be, hence you meeting the girl who is going out of state to another college. But in all seriousness, MAN UP.

yeah i got to man up yeah im pretty matue for my age im only 18 its like a shit load of stuff just hit me before my parents paid for all my shit im not going to lie but now im out on my own

Originally Posted by JohnnyDrfiter22

id have to see some pix of these breezy's cuz you talking a whole bunch of shit. "I got a Benz, a 5000sq ft house, condo.......

IDK but if it were me, id do what i do now and just chill with a few girlies, but never get serious. And if you were me, you dont invite girls over to your crib, you dont chill with any girls friends....

I need to write a book....

ill throw some pics up in bit

[SimpleS14]

Don't posts pics, you should know the common trend that happens once you do that...


Anyways, your original post was painful to read so I'm assuming you're in some triangle with women while seeking to get your priorities straight.

Not much I can say than that....get your priorities straight and confirm that the kid is actually yours. Not trying to dog Liz (I think that's the baby mama)...but I've seen girls get prego and point it on the wrong guy after the kid is born. It's sad that you're still a kid getting tossed into such situations...but hey what doesn't kill you makes you stronger (lets hope it almost makes you smarter).

[Genovese.Jr]

Originally Posted by SimpleS14

Don't posts pics, you should know the common trend that happens once you do that...


Anyways, your original post was painful to read so I'm assuming you're in some triangle with women while seeking to get your priorities straight.

Not much I can say than that....get your priorities straight and confirm that the kid is actually yours. Not trying to dog Liz (I think that's the baby mama)...but I've seen girls get prego and point it on the wrong guy after the kid is born. It's sad that you're still a kid getting tossed into such situations...but hey what doesn't kill you makes you stronger (lets hope it almost makes you smarter).

yeah actully i used the triangle example in the original post but i edited it its just like you said its like a triangle but the 3rd girl lyla is out because im looking back on it and i see it as a fling but that relationship could never go anywere exspecally after i fought her brother and beat him with in an inch of his life because he punched liz the pregnan chick the face and broke her nose while i was going out with her

[zylvia213]

Originally Posted by HyperTek

well if liz's baby is actually yours, take care of that, be a man, dont be fucking around. imagine if your dad did that. How many times did you get with liz? if it was just that one time and you had a rubber, how do you know its yours and the girl wasnt messin around?

^^^^ I agree

[ericcastro]

Originally Posted by azndoc

Here is my advice.

Man up take care of your kid, if it is your kid. Doesn't sound like this Liz girl is a catch.

Just another hoe with daddy problems looking for a man to fulfill her insecurities.

Then take a 6 months off. Don't fuck with no chicks and just hang out with your boys and work on your own shit.

You'd be surprised the amount of shit you get done without female problems cluttering up your life.

Not reading the rest of the post.
Jack said it.

Are you a pathetic fucking chick??
Whats wrong with being single and sorting YOUR shit out??
Or is it everyone else that seems to be causeing the problems? nothing to do with you right??

People on here are not thinking, or thinking small town old school.
If the kid is yours, then take care of it like a man.
But that DOES NOT MEAN GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH THE GIRL!!!
Have the courts figure out your child support, and make payments.
Otherwise, this Liz, will fuck you over in the end maybe.
Paternity test are over the counter and cost barely anything.
You just mail in some urine.
So get that first step over with and see if its yours.
Otherwise, guess who gets a house and a car back?
If the little one is yours, ask her what the child needs?
basinette? crip? diapers? formula?
cloths? stroller? blanket? breast pump?
doctors visits? toys?
its your child, its really hard for single moms.
So be supportive without getting back together.

Also, realize she has a right to be angry.
Its not at just you.
But your the only target thats easy to deal with.
She probbly had big plans for life in her mind, and all that has changed now.
Its her fault and yours, but its easier to blame you then look in the mirror.

so just say, Im sorry for my part in your life not going in the direction you have planned. But NEVER apologies for the incidents that involve having the little dude/dudet.

Life isnt all about you now, its about a child.

If you are taking care of your child, your new chick will probably have issues with your amount of contact with your X anyways.
So just have PROTECTED fun with girls, but dont be a fucking pussy and get serious with every chick that gives you the time of day.

BTW, OC population statistics for 2009 were over 3.1 million.
What the fuck are you still wasting time with the same ol chicks for.
Stop being pathetic and move on!

[HyperTek]

be nice if you read the thread b4 posting.

Coming from a broken home sucks by the way.

[ericcastro]

Originally Posted by HyperTek

be nice if you read the thread b4 posting.

..........

I read down to Jacks.

thats my advice.